MY GIFTED MOSAIC

MY GIFTED MOSAIC

“De meest voorkomende vorm van wanhoop is: niet jezelf zijn.”
– Kierkegaard

Te lang leefde ik met de vage onrust van ‘niet kloppen’. Pas toen ik mijn uitzonderlijke begaafdheid erkende — cognitief én existentieel — kon ik thuiskomen in mezelf.

Als mentor, coach en ervaringsdeskundige help ik (zeer)hoogbegaafde volwassenen zichzelf terug te vinden. Niet door méér te presteren, maar door dieper te begrijpen wie ze in essentie zijn. Want jezelf zijn in een wereld die je niet altijd begrijpt, is geen luxe — het is levensnoodzakelijk.

* Onderstaande tekst komt uit mijn essay wat deze zomer gepubliceerd wordt in een compilatie van InterGifted met als thema: Healing Gifted Trauma!

“Only when I connected the dots back to my first love, my friend that I refer to as Anne with an E, and perhaps one or two other bright minds, did I realize I might perhaps possess some amazing gifts myself? Retrospectively, especially after reading Hollingsworth’s research stating that children with IQs above 140 waste half their classroom time while those with 170+ waste all of it, my awareness of my own giftedness expanded. I'd actually demonstrated enormous crystallized and fluid intelligence throughout my lifespan.

I gradually understood my emotional, imaginational, kinesthetic, spiritual, and energetic intelligence—my affective traits, spatial-visual and psychomotor skills. Yet accepting my intellectual intelligence proved hardest. Having never truly excelled at anything.

I recall numerous instances of being praised for my capacity to conceptualize and contextualize at warp speed—not just by casual acquaintances, but mostly high performing executives informally seeking my advice on complex business matters.

Made aware later in life, I realized I'd severely underestimated my intellectual abilities. Besides Intergifted, I explored Dutch events for gifted adults, gaining clarity on distinctions between highly, exceptionally, and profoundly gifted individuals—discovering I belonged to the 0.2%.

Though I wished it didn't matter, acknowledging this reality felt both important and imperative. Being such an outlier feels weird—perhaps surreal suffices. I sometimes feel compelled to apologize or defend myself, adding another layer of strangeness to an already unusual experience. It's simultaneously beautiful and difficult. Yet in admitting this innate reality, I finally do myself justice and validate myself internally.”

(* snippet from essay for InterGifted)

Wees uitgenodigd om jouw (uitzonderlijke)hoogbegaafdheid te ontdekken en op zoek te gaan naar je ware vorm!

Dyonne Schreurs
Mentor, gids en coach voor hoogbegaafde volwassen